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Hey Shula,

can you date someone in ur shichva?

Luv,
Blueboy

Hi Blueboy,

No. I mean, yes, but no. It’s
confusing.

Look, Blueboy, I’ll tell you
the truth. It has high
potential to end messily
and with a lot of pain. But
I’ll lay it out for you. Ask the
following questions. Every time you get a “no”
answer then you need to stop for a moment and
have a sicha with a friend about it.

1. Do you really REALLY like them?

2. Do you think your relationship is built in a way
where you could be friends afterwards? Do you
talk about that as a possibility?

3. Do you feel like your relationship is supported
by your friends?

4. Does your relationship make you feel
comfortable in spaces with other members of
the shichvah?